Punching Bag

Miss Amazon:

I am in a long term relationship (12 years) and my partner about once a month "sees red" and beats me up. He is pretty much a wuss but it is still jarring and wrong. I know a wise person would just leave and get away from the violence but I have a challenge. I built a very successful company and have it in both our names and there is no way he is going to let me take any assets if I leave so I have no way to survive. Should I just tough it out and hope it will get better?

-Punching Bag

Oh Pudding! I have been there and done that! Violence does not abate until one of you is dead. I know you are scared to start over and guessing that based on your long relationship term you are wondering if you will be alone because you are not a spring chicken anymore. Well here is where the bear shit in the woods....you have value as much as your partner does not want you to know it. Your friends also know what is going on...talk to them about your need to leave and see how your friends can help you get out. If they tell you partner you are planning to leave you may have a situation but at least it is out in the open and he will have to face the real possibility of losing you and there is not a huge market for abusive spouses! Never, never, never feel like you do not have options because you do. If you afraid of starting again...I can assure you that the second time around is MUCH easier. The time has come for you to lean on someone else and get well yourself. Remember...Miss Amazon loves YOU and all you do...I believe in you Punching Bag!

-Miss Amazon

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